This article is one of the best I’ve seen to help people make the most of starting therapy. It poses a few key questions to ask yourself, which will set you ahead when you first meet with a therapist or coach. If you’re undecided about whether you want to reach out to a professional, answering […]
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Here is an extended quote from psychotherapist Nathaniel Branden. His book, If You Could Hear What I Cannot Say, is a gem from the early 1980s. These two pages out of his book (now out of print) are one of the most thoughtful, beautiful descriptions I’ve seen anywhere of how to be present for challenging
I’m not a new year’s resolution kind of gal, but I do like the sense of pause at the turn of the year to reflect on what my priorities are for the next stretch. It’s less about resolving to be a more perfect person than accepting more deeply the person I already am and moving
I recorded this short guided meditation to offer an easy kind of “Mindfulness 101” practice. It works as a stand-alone experience or as a way to get into a settled, open state of mind for writing or reflection. It can also support relaxation before bedtime. I record custom meditations and guided visualizations for my clients
This short piece is one of the best I’ve read on releasing the grip of our control freak selves. It’s a timely word here in the midst of various holiday seasons and the turning of the new year. May it land with an exhale in your day.
WRITE A LETTER YOU DON’T SEND Write a letter freely, without editing, to someone with whom you have unfinished business, or to someone you imagine would be a friendly audience for your thoughts. Some people work stuff out with their parents (or children) this way, without ever sending the letter, or with people who have
The NYT just reported on a study published in JAMA Psychiatry showing that writing to process trauma is just as effective as the more commonly-used prolonged exposure method. In the study, the dropout rate was three times higher for the prolonged exposure arm than the writing arm. That makes sense because prolonged exposure is hard.
Psychologist Michael Greenberg lays out four different kinds of compulsive thinking traps we often get caught in. I’ve done all of these at one time or another and am glad to have them laid out so I can catch them when they crop up. Rumination is a common but very unhelpful habit that fuels unhappiness
Most of us didn’t grow up learning how to take care of difficult feelings and it’s rare that adults are able to model this well. So many of us arrive into adulthood with more emotional reactivity and more emotional avoidance habits than we need. Small things set us off and we can get to feeling
When we circle around and around on a topic in a tight, repetitive way — that’s ruminating. Our minds will try to convince us that we’re solving a problem when we’re actually just stirring the same tired mud puddle. And often the feeling tone of rumination is negative, whether it’s worry, regret, or self-criticism. Problems