Helping humans one email at a time
Helping humans one email at a time
This article is one of the best I’ve seen to help people make the most of starting therapy. It poses a few key questions to ask yourself, which will set you ahead when you first meet with a therapist or coach. If you’re undecided about whether you want to reach out to a professional, answering […]
Thinking about seeing a therapist or coach? Read this. Read More »
I’m not a new year’s resolution kind of gal, but I do like the sense of pause at the turn of the year to reflect on what my priorities are for the next stretch. It’s less about resolving to be a more perfect person than accepting more deeply the person I already am and moving
What Do You Want Your Year to Be About? Read More »
WRITE A LETTER YOU DON’T SEND Write a letter freely, without editing, to someone with whom you have unfinished business, or to someone you imagine would be a friendly audience for your thoughts. Some people work stuff out with their parents (or children) this way, without ever sending the letter, or with people who have
A Baker’s Dozen of Writing Practices to Fuel Insight Read More »
Here’s some advice about how to choose which path to take when the way forward is not clear. The top line is that it’s helpful to have an intentional process of some kind when facing a tough decision. Otherwise, our default mode may use fear or reactivity as a guide, which gets in the way
Which way do I go? When you have a tough decision to make Read More »
This whole article is quite lovely, with good resources and exercises to try. One quote I particularly like: “Trusting myself is, first and foremost, a visceral experience, less like adopting a new set of beliefs and more like a trust fall into the inner landscape of my heart, lungs, abdomen and gut. Each moment, interaction,
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As Voltaire said, perfect is the enemy of good. In our hunt for perfection, we wear ourselves out, make ourselves sick, and usually have a pretty grim time of it. This article is a solid look at how to recognize and dial back perfectionism. You don’t have to give up on excellence when you let
perfectionism produces paralysis Read More »
The boulder in our path is usually the one we put there. Not always, but very often. This article walks through a short exercise to identify the core fear getting in your way, as well as your habitual (and potentially not-so-effective) way of responding to it. You can start with most any problem at all
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When you’ve got an important choice to make or if you’re feeling a bit lost about which way to go next, how do you work with it? Making pro and con lists, talking to wise friends, and examining how an option aligns with your values are all good things when navigating a choice point. Depending
Are you open to a little mystery? Try the I Ching Read More »
Here they are. (Ignore the “self-care” label in the headline because that’s silly.)
134 Ideas for when you’re bored, sad, worried, or just wondering what’s next Read More »