Helping humans one conversation at a time
Helping humans one conversation at a time
As Voltaire said, perfect is the enemy of good. In our hunt for perfection, we wear ourselves out, make ourselves sick, and usually have a pretty grim time of it. This article is a solid look at how to recognize and dial back perfectionism. You don’t have to give up on excellence when you let […]
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The boulder in our path is usually the one we put there. Not always, but very often. This article walks through a short exercise to identify the core fear getting in your way, as well as your habitual (and potentially not-so-effective) way of responding to it. You can start with most any problem at all
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Check out this map to Slow TV around the world when you need to downshift for a minute. It really helps to catch yourself when you’re needlessly rushing and take the chance to look up and slow down. Your nervous system, digestion, and tight muscles will thank you. We’re nature, not machines. Nature has uphills
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This page links to a list of free, scientifically-validated psychological self-assessments for common issues. If you’re feeling overwhelmed and wondering if a mental health professional might help, this may give you a place to start. Here’s an article about how to know if it’s time to consider therapy. And here’s a link to Psychology Today
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When you’ve got an important choice to make or if you’re feeling a bit lost about which way to go next, how do you work with it? Making pro and con lists, talking to wise friends, and examining how an option aligns with your values are all good things when navigating a choice point. Depending
Are you open to a little mystery? Try the I Ching Read More »
This is the best article I’ve seen describing the main cognitive distortions we humans habitually get caught in. Cognitive distortions are mental habits like catastrophizing, black-and-white thinking, and emotional reasoning, and they tend to amplify stress, conflict, and low mood. It’s a good idea to familiarize yourself with them so you can catch yourself as
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This little illustrated PDF guide is kinda delightful. Good for sharing with kids as well. Applies just as well to regular daily life as to times of heightened stress.
Illustrated guide for doing what matters in times of stress Read More »
Here they are. (Ignore the “self-care” label in the headline because that’s silly.)
134 Ideas for when you’re bored, sad, worried, or just wondering what’s next Read More »